Accept err-type override in `is_multi_cancelled()`

Such that equivalents of `trio.Cancelled` from other runtimes such as
`asyncio.CancelledError` and `subprocess.CalledProcessError` (with
a `.returncode == -2`) can be gracefully ignored as needed by the
caller.

For example this is handy if you want to avoid debug-mode REPL entry on
an exception-group full of only some subset of exception types since you
expect certain tasks to raise such errors after having been cancelled by
a request from some parent supervision sys (some "higher up"
`trio.CancelScope`, a remote triggered `ContextCancelled` or just from
and OS SIGINT).

Impl deats,
- offer a new `ignore_nested: set[BaseException]` param which by
  default we add `trio.Cancelled` to when no other types are provided.
- use `ExceptionGroup.subgroup(tuple(ignore_nested)` to filter to egs of
  the "ignored sub-errors set" and return any such match (instead of
  `True`).
- detail a comment on exclusion case.

tractor/_exceptions.py

@@ -1146,19 +1146,51 @@ def unpack_error(
 
 
 def is_multi_cancelled(
-    exc: BaseException|BaseExceptionGroup
-) -> bool:
+    exc: BaseException|BaseExceptionGroup,
+
+    ignore_nested: set[BaseException] = set(),
+
+) -> bool|BaseExceptionGroup:
     '''
-    Predicate to determine if a possible ``BaseExceptionGroup`` contains
-    only ``trio.Cancelled`` sub-exceptions (and is likely the result of
-    cancelling a collection of subtasks.
+    Predicate to determine if an `BaseExceptionGroup` only contains
+    some (maybe nested) set of sub-grouped exceptions (like only
+    `trio.Cancelled`s which get swallowed silently by default) and is
+    thus the result of "gracefully cancelling" a collection of
+    sub-tasks (or other conc primitives) and receiving a "cancelled
+    ACK" from each after termination.
+
+    Docs:
+    ----
+    - https://docs.python.org/3/library/exceptions.html#exception-groups
+    - https://docs.python.org/3/library/exceptions.html#BaseExceptionGroup.subgroup
 
     '''
+
+    if (
+        not ignore_nested
+        or
+        trio.Cancelled in ignore_nested
+        # XXX always count-in `trio`'s native signal
+    ):
+        ignore_nested |= {trio.Cancelled}
+
     if isinstance(exc, BaseExceptionGroup):
-        return exc.subgroup(
-            lambda exc: isinstance(exc, trio.Cancelled)
-        ) is not None
+        matched_exc: BaseExceptionGroup|None = exc.subgroup(
+            tuple(ignore_nested),
 
+            # TODO, complain about why not allowed XD
+            # condition=tuple(ignore_nested),
+        )
+        if matched_exc is not None:
+            return matched_exc
+
+    # NOTE, IFF no excs types match (throughout the error-tree)
+    # -> return `False`, OW return the matched sub-eg.
+    #
+    # IOW, for the inverse of ^ for the purpose of
+    # maybe-enter-REPL--logic: "only debug when the err-tree contains
+    # at least one exc-type NOT in `ignore_nested`" ; i.e. the case where
+    # we fallthrough and return `False` here.
     return False