Add a `--spawn-backend` option which can be set to one of {'mp',
'trio_run_in_process'} which will either run the test suite using the
`multiprocessing` or `trio-run-in-process` backend respectively.
Currently trying to run both in the same session can result in hangs
seemingly due to a lack of cleanup of forkservers / resource trackers
from `multiprocessing` which cause broken pipe errors on occasion (no
idea on the details).
For `test_cancellation.py::test_nested_multierrors`, use less nesting
when mp is used since it breaks if we push it too hard with the
whole recursive subprocess spawning thing...