Fix mutual-rendezvous premature-reap race (#477)

The `test_trynamic_trio` + `a_trynamic_first_scene.py` migration
to paired `to_actor.run()` one-shots carries a race the legacy
`run_in_actor()` shape never had: donny + gretchen each
`wait_for_actor()` (then DIAL) the *other*, but a one-shot is
reaped the instant its own hello returns — so the slower peer
can resolve the winner's registry entry and connect to an
already-dead sockaddr -> `ConnectionRefusedError` boxed as a
`RemoteActorError` (or a reg-wait `TooSlowError`), flaking
~1-in-3 standalone runs.

Mutual-rendezvous peers must OUTLIVE both dialogs, so pin the
lifetimes explicitly: `start_actor()` both as daemons, run both
hellos concurrently via bg `Portal.run()` tasks, then reap with
`an.cancel()` only after the task-nursery joins. (The legacy
teardown-reap provided this pinning implicitly — one of the
few places its semantics were ever actually relied upon.)

Gate: `-k trynamic` standalone x8 green (was flaking); full
`test_registrar` module + the example-runner green.

(this patch was generated in some part by [`claude-code`][claude-code-gh])
[claude-code-gh]: https://github.com/anthropics/claude-code

examples/a_trynamic_first_scene.py

@@ -17,36 +17,37 @@ async def say_hello(other_actor):
         return await portal.run(hi)
 
 
-async def run_and_print(
-    an: tractor.ActorNursery,
-    name: str,
-    other_actor: str,
-):
-    print(
-        await tractor.to_actor.run(
-            say_hello,
-            an=an,
-            name=name,
-            # arguments are always named
-            other_actor=other_actor,
-        )
-    )
-
-
 async def main():
     """Main tractor entry point, the "master" process (for now
     acts as the "director").
     """
-    async with (
-        tractor.open_nursery() as an,
-        trio.open_nursery() as tn,
-    ):
+    async with tractor.open_nursery() as an:
         print("Alright... Action!")
 
-        # both actors wait on the *other* to register so their
-        # one-shots must run concurrently.
-        tn.start_soon(run_and_print, an, 'donny', 'gretchen')
-        tn.start_soon(run_and_print, an, 'gretchen', 'donny')
+        # both actors wait on (then dial!) the *other*, so each
+        # must outlive both hellos: spawn as daemons, run the
+        # hellos concurrently, reap only once both complete.
+        portals: dict[str, tractor.Portal] = {
+            name: await an.start_actor(
+                name,
+                enable_modules=[__name__],
+            )
+            for name in ('donny', 'gretchen')
+        }
+
+        async def run_and_print(name: str, other_actor: str):
+            print(
+                await portals[name].run(
+                    say_hello,
+                    other_actor=other_actor,
+                )
+            )
+
+        async with trio.open_nursery() as tn:
+            tn.start_soon(run_and_print, 'donny', 'gretchen')
+            tn.start_soon(run_and_print, 'gretchen', 'donny')
+
+        await an.cancel()
 
     print("CUTTTT CUUTT CUT!!! Donny!! You're supposed to say...")
 

tests/discovery/test_registrar.py

@@ -152,27 +152,37 @@ async def test_trynamic_trio(
     for the directed subs.
 
     '''
-    async with (
-        tractor.open_nursery() as n,
-        trio.open_nursery() as tn,
-    ):
+    async with tractor.open_nursery() as an:
         print("Alright... Action!")
 
-        # donny + gretchen each wait on the *other* to register, so
-        # they must run CONCURRENTLY — schedule both one-shots into a
-        # local task-nursery (was two non-blocking `run_in_actor()`s).
+        # donny + gretchen each wait on (then dial!) the *other*, so
+        # both actors must OUTLIVE both hellos: spawn as daemons and
+        # only reap after both tasks complete. NB a pair of eagerly
+        # reaped `to_actor.run()` one-shots races: the first to
+        # finish dies while the other may still be dialing its
+        # registry-resolved (now dead) sockaddr -> conn-refused.
+        portals: dict[str, tractor.Portal] = {
+            name: await an.start_actor(
+                name,
+                enable_modules=[__name__],
+            )
+            for name in ('donny', 'gretchen')
+        }
+
         async def _direct(this_name: str, other_actor: str):
-            res = await tractor.to_actor.run(
+            res = await portals[this_name].run(
                 ria_fn,
-                an=n,
                 other_actor=other_actor,
                 reg_addr=reg_addr,
-                name=this_name,
             )
             print(res)
 
-        tn.start_soon(_direct, 'donny', 'gretchen')
-        tn.start_soon(_direct, 'gretchen', 'donny')
+        async with trio.open_nursery() as tn:
+            tn.start_soon(_direct, 'donny', 'gretchen')
+            tn.start_soon(_direct, 'gretchen', 'donny')
+
+        # both hellos have completed; reap the thespians.
+        await an.cancel()
         print("CUTTTT CUUTT CUT!!?! Donny!! You're supposed to say...")